Hallowe’en Dinner by Betsy

I was only trying to be
a good mother.  Back in the 1960‘and 70’s
liver was considered to be the best, most nutritious food available.  No other food had all the goodness of beef or
calves’ liver.  That is, nutritionally it
was the best, aesthetically, well, pretty awful, in my opinion.
During that time I was
very conscientious about giving my young children the best in nutrition.  The only question about liver was how
to get them to eat it
I,
myself, had a hard time, indeed, getting the slightest morsel down.  The texture and the taste, I thought and
still think, are rather repulsive. But a good mother feeds her children
well.   So I determined that once a year,
at least, liver would be served at the dinner table and consumed by all–even
if it were to be a very small amount.  But
how to get them to eat it.
  What
was a mother to do.
Hallowe’en offered the
perfect situation.  The children
typically would do their trick or treating as soon as they had finished their
dinner.  Well, you know the rest.  “You may go trick or treating after
you have finished your liver.” 
said I to the three sweet, little, adorable faces with blinking eyes
looking at me in anticipation of the excitement of going out with their friends
for Hallowe’en fun. Ooow!! That was hard. 
Was that cruel, or what.  Oh well,
I wouldn’t make them eat much.  Even just
a couple of bites!  After all, it’s for
their own good.  That’s why I’m doing
this, isn’t it.  Isn’t that what any good
mother would do?
Interesting that when
my daughters, now old enough to be young grandmothers, recently reminded me of
these hallowe’en dinners of many years ago, I replied innocently, “I don’t
remember any of that!.  Are you sure that
really happened?  You know, I wouldn’t
touch the stuff even if I wanted to.  It’s
full of cholesterol and toxins!”
The reality is that I
do remember, now that my memory has been tweaked.  And, yes, this did happen, but I think only
once or maybe twice at most, not the many, many hallowe’en dinners that they
remember. 
At the time those liver
dinners on Hallowe’en were not so funny to any of us.  Eating liver was serious business.  Now we know better.   Now 45 years later, every Hallowe’en, we get
lots of laughs remembering the liver dinner–or was it dinners?  I get teased a lot about this.  I guess my kids grew up and came to
understand what it’s like to be a parent wanting to do the right thing for
their kids.
But as I look back on
it now, I realize I have mellowed a lot. 
I don’t think I would make my kids do that now, especially on
Hallowe’en.  Every once in a while, in
spite of the laughs, a vague, nagging feeling from deep inside emerges and
suggests that maybe that was kind of mean–making them eat liver.  But, then, didn’t someone say that Hallowe’en
has its dark side. 
© 31 Oct 2011

About the Author

Betsy has been active in the
GLBT community including PFLAG, the Denver women’s chorus, OLOC (Old Lesbians
Organizing for Change).  She has been
retired from the Human Services field for about 15 years.  Since her retirement, her major activities
include tennis, camping, traveling, teaching skiing as a volunteer instructor
with National Sports Center for the Disabled, and learning.  Betsy came out as a lesbian after 25 years of
marriage. She has a close relationship with her three children and enjoys
spending time with her four grandchildren. 
Betsy says her greatest and most meaningful enjoyment comes from sharing
her life with her partner of 25 years, Gillian Edwards. 

The Gayest Person I Have Ever Known by Will Stanton

I know the world is full of
gay people (using the currently popular definition of the term), and they dress
and behave in many different ways.  If,
however, the person who chose this topic was thinking of the stereotypical gay
guy with distinctive apparel or mannerisms who often draws attention to
himself, I really have not hung around very many gays like that.  If I use that frame of reference, however,
then I would have to think of young Peter whom I met in college.
Peter did, in fact, draw
attention to himself; but he seemed to be able to do it in a way that
fascinated people, never repelled them. 
I suppose that he had the advantage of being remarkably good looking, as
well as intelligent and charismatic. 
I  observed  people’s body-language that supported this
fact.  Sometimes, I’d see straight guys
encounter a gay guy and then immediately draw away in distaste; whereas, with
Peter, they involuntarily would lean forward, eyes wide-open, fascinated.  Other gays on campus did not fare so well as
he did.  I know of at least one gay who
was beaten up, but even the homophobes just stared at Peter, and that is no
exaggeration.  Straight guys seemed to be
far too taken with Peter to ever consider being unkind to him.
Peter’s heritage was an
unlikely pairing of Polish and Sicilian ancestry.  He had the fine, classic facial features of a
Polish aristocrat, and I could imagine that his mother resembled Tadzio’s
mother in the film “Death in Venice.”  
He also flaunted a mane of golden locks, much like Tadzio’s.  His skin was a smooth, honey-tan.  Apparently, the only obvious inheritance from
his Sicilian father was the ability to tan without burning.
Peter obviously was very
aware of his good looks and their effect upon people.  He enjoyed being noticed.  He did confide in me, however, one concern
about his physical self.  His body appeared
to be rather soft and smooth, even slightly androgynous; and he wondered if he
innately was less masculine than most college-age guys.
Peter chose clothes that
straight guys would be embarrassed to wear. 
Between Peter’s physical appearance, his cute clothes, and his confident
way of talking and walking, he never failed to draw attention.
Peter had a large group of
gay friends, plus an endless string of guys persistently trying to get Peter
into bed, and a series of trailing hangers-on that people unkindly referred to
as “fag-hags.”  It was nothing to see
Peter cheerfully making his way somewhere, trailed by several enamored
acquaintances, much like moths to a flame.
Peter was an unabashed
flirt. He knew when people were staring at him. 
If he was in a teasing mood, he could embarrass his admirers by
sensuously displaying himself. He might smile at them and not leave until the
observers turned red with embarrassment. 
 
From what Peter told me, I
think that he enjoyed flirting with straight guys.  He once answered an ad to share expenses with
two straight guys in a van going to Florida for spring break. When they drove
up to Peter’s house, he appeared wearing tiny, baby-blue shorts and a little
pink sweater.  And, when he came
flouncing down the front steps to the van, his gay house-mate called out, “Have
a good time, and don’t get any nice boys into trouble!”  The two guys’ jaws dropped.  Apparently, the straight guys overcame their
initial surprise, for by the time they pulled over into a rest stop for the
night, Peter ended up being, as he later described it, “the meat in the
sandwich.”  Once Peter arrived in Florida,
he donned a diaphanous caftan, strutted upon the beach, and immediately found
housing and entertainment during his stay because he was picked up by a member
of one of America’s most wealthy and prominent families.  I have chosen not to mention the name.  Then he had the ride home with the two
straight guys to enjoy.
No one could mistake Peter
as being anything other than gay, but he had no interest in drag.  Some of his friends; however, thought that he
was too pretty not to try it, at least on one occasion.  They decided to dress Peter up for a big
party that would have lots of straight guys there with their dates.  At first, he resisted, but eventually he
agreed to do it.  As it turned out, his
appearance was so stunning that a lot of the guys abandoned their dates, went
over to Peter, and were trying to chat him up. Their abandoned dates were
furious. Peter was so convincing that they never discovered that he was a guy
in drag.  He could be flamboyant, but he did
not care for drag. He never did that again.
On a few occasions, I paled
around with Peter, but we never did anything particularly gay or
titillating.  We took a hike around the
state park, went to see the film “Death in Venice” together, and sometimes just
hung out talking.  Even though I admired
his good looks, I never asked to go to bed with Peter.  I liked him just for who he was.  He wondered why I had not asked.  I replied that, apparently, everyone else
continually asked him, and my asking him simply would place my friendship on
their same level.  My friendship could be
misinterpreted, implying that having sex was all that I really was interested
in.  That impressed him, for when he
graduated and left college, he gave me some gifts including three photos of
himself.  The color one is included with
this story.  I have one very large,
glass-framed composite-portrait in silver that was part of his final
commercial-art portfolio.  He wrote on
the back of the picture, “Love ya always, Peter.”
The last time that I talked
with Peter, he expressed, for the first time that I observed, some loss of
confidence.  Here he had graduated and
was going out into the real world.  He
was afraid of how people would treat him, his being so obviously gay.  He imagined that he might have to limit
himself to living on the East Coast or West Coast where there might be a
greater percentage of tolerant people.  I
hope that he chose well.
I often have wondered what
became of Peter.  Out of curiosity, I did
a couple of searches on the web.  All
that I found were listings for several people with the same name, but none
appeared to be “The Peter.”  Perhaps it
is it is just as well that I do not have a current photo of him.  We all have aged, and even he was not
immortal.  I’ll just remember him as he
was, the golden, cheerful, charismatic Peter. 
And just maybe, he might discover our blog and read this story.                                     
© 04 April 2014 

About the Author 

I have had a life-long fascination with people
and their life stories.  I also realize
that, although my own life has not brought me particular fame or fortune, I too
have had some noteworthy experiences and, at times, unusual ones.  Since I joined this Story Time group, I have
derived pleasure and satisfaction participating in the group.  I do put some thought and effort into my
stories, and I hope that you find them interesting.

Thanksgiving 2013 by Ricky

            Another Thanksgiving holiday is upon
us and I always take time to ponder the things I am thankful for but this year I
am also thinking about the changes that have taken place over my lifetime.  Back-in-the-day (I am old enough to use that
expression and it actually has meaning) as a young lad I really enjoyed the
holiday season.  First, Halloween
followed by Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Year’s Eve managed to offset the
after Labor Day plague of school homework with visions of “tons” of candy,
turkey and pumpkin pie, and presents, and the ever popular 1 ½ to 2 weeks of
time off from school.
          Thanksgiving
was marked by comments like “stay out of my way” or “stay out of the kitchen while
I’m fixing the turkey” or “you can help best by going outside and play while I
get this meal done.”  It was hard (read
that as impossible) for a young boy to stay away from the kitchen when all
those marvelous aromas kept wafting (to me at the time “pouring”) out of the
kitchen.  Naturally, mother had to
“remind” me to “Stay out!” and “Keep away from that pie!” all with an elevated
voice (to be polite about her emphasis). 
However, at last, all the waiting was done and the most excellent of all
meals was consumed (for several days after also) only to be repeated at
Christmas dinner.
          I can remember
that Thanksgiving was “promoted” not only on school bulletin boards in the
classrooms where each teacher and students would try to have the best
Thanksgiving displays in the entire school. 
My class’s was clearly the best each and every time but, those biased
judges never managed to pick my class as the winner.
          The community
also decorated for Thanksgiving.  Mostly
it was done by the various businesses by putting up window decorations.  The department stores fancied up their window
displays with Thanksgiving themes surrounding the mannequins on display.  Sadly, this “custom” did not last as the movement
to purchase gifts for Christmas began to gain momentum in the business
community moved the Christmas displays ever earlier in the year finally
eclipsing Thanksgiving in favor of making the “almighty dollar” sooner rather
than later.  Once again, greed conquered
gratefulness in our society.  Now only
the truly dedicated believers in a “higher power” take time to remember why the
Thanksgiving Day holiday was created.  It
saddens me.
          Fortunately, I
remember the purpose of the holiday so here is my list of things I am thankful
and grateful for this season.
I am thankful for: being alive at 65;
having good health; my deceased wife; all my children; the opportunity to be
educated; living in The United States; learning to read via phonics in
Minnesota schools; living with my grandparent’s and uncle on a farm for two
years; being lonely enough to join the Boy Scouts; my brother and sister; my
father and all he has done for and to me; my mother and step-father; all my
mistakes whether or not I learned from them; as they were the catalyst for my
coming out; all my acquaintances at SAGE’s Telling Your Story group, and Prime
Timers; and finally that I was not aborted but allowed to live and have all the
adventures and experiences I had and will have in the future.

© 25 November 2013 

About the Author

I was born in June of 1948 in Los Angeles, living first in
Lawndale and then in Redondo Beach.  Just
prior to turning 8 years old in 1956, I began living with my grandparents on
their farm in Isanti County, Minnesota for two years during which time my
parents divorced.
When united with my mother and stepfather two years later
in 1958, I lived first at Emerald Bay and then at South Lake Tahoe, California,
graduating from South Tahoe High School in 1966.  After three tours of duty with the Air Force,
I moved to Denver, Colorado where I lived with my wife and four children until
her passing away from complications of breast cancer four days after the 9-11
terrorist attack.
I came out as a gay man in the summer of 2010.   I find writing these memories to be
therapeutic.
My story blog is, TheTahoeBoy.Blogspot.com.

Me & Amadeus by Ray S

It has been a long time that Verizon & I have been in
my pocket either alerting me to a caller or trying to take a picture in my
pocket.  However, it was determined by
powers beyond my control that it was time for a replacement cell phone.
The ensuing trip to the local Verizon emporium, where all
the earnest busy-bee workers seemed to swarm all about a vast selection of
electronic necessities, resulted in the appearance of a little new black
virginal cell phone waiting to become my lifeline to the outside world.  But before it could spring into service or my
pocket, it required programing with the information from its predecessor.
Then the super-efficient automaton busy-bee informed us
that would not be possible as the two instruments were not compatible. …… A
really strange thing to us inasmuch both little tykes issued forth from the
same source.  One thing we were assured
of though, was that if accidently the right little button was activated I could
still take pocket pictures.
All previous knowledge had been lost, including the
delightful signal-melody that always announced to anyone in earshot that this
cell phone owner was extremely couth & cultured (artistic to say the
least).  No bells or horns, ribald
hip-hop, imitation old fashioned telephone “Ringy ding ding”, but the melodious
sounds of what was ultimately identified as a bit of Amadeus. 
Unable to track Amadeus down we substituted a snippet of
Figaro’s rather pretentious Wedding March. 
As you have probably gathered circumstances do become tedious and
tiresome for us dilettantes.  You know,
the artistic types.  But something had to
be done to get on with electronic progress. 
So Figaro took over as programed. 
After a couple of marches down the aisle with Figaro, something had to be
done to relocate the purloined original melody, but not being an educated
musician, just a music nerd who favored the classics (and of course, show
tunes) I could do no better than whistle an off key version of the tune.
This called for drastic measures to find Amadeus.  The search was begun to find the wizard of
lost melodies, the shaman of the ivories, the creator of crescendos, the
ultimate music authority (at least in my little world), Herr Doktor Bösendorfer!  I was successful in being granted audience of
such short notice, but this was an emergency and the doktor acquiesced.
After appropriate vetting to decipher the off-key hummed
melody as best as I could muster, my faith in the master was affirmed when
after research of the entire cabinet where Herr Mozart was closeted.  Eureka! 
The Sonata in C Major, K-545,
came to light.  And lest this
Philistine/dilettante remain forever ignorant of the complete sonata, the good
doktor gave the big black shiny Bösendorfer a run for its money by playing the total selection.  My subsequent joy was so great I threw my
arms about Herr Doktor’s ample waist & almost burst into tears.  Amadeus had come back to me, as I planted a
big kiss of gratitude on the maestro’s rosy cheek.
With my new found knowledge I was off to meet the enemy,
the Verizon automatons.  Thanks to the
Herr Doktor & Herr Bösendorfer there is renewed life for this music lover.  So ends this sincere “artistic” tale.  Cant you hear that sweet köchel right now?
Do I hear cries of “Author”, “Author”?
Thank you, Wolfgang A. Sylvester

© 8 Sep 2014 

About the Author







Favorite Literary Character by Phillip Hoyle

For me to choose my favorite literary character seems as impossible as to choose my favorite activity from a three-week road trip. I’ve never been able to select just one because I usually prize too many memories. So when I consider that in first grade I began reading about Dick and Jane, in the fifth grade was introduced to the novel when Mrs. Schaffer read us of Jim Hawkins, Billy Bones, and Long John Silver in Treasure Island, in eighth grade read my first novel which I checked out from the school library, James Fennimore Cooper’s The Spy with its Betty Flanagan and Harvey Birch, and after that never quit reading book after book to the point that in my mid-thirties I was reading five books a week—most of them novels—I’m hard pressed to choose any single character as my favorite. There have been so many!

A few years ago when in my writing I realized I was working on a novel and not simply the collection of short stories I had imagined, I came to the awful realization that although I had read hundreds of novels and recalled from them plenty of characters, scenes, and situations, I had never seriously studied the novel as literature, had never read one under the tutelage of a professor, and had never analyzed the plot, character, or even writing style that makes some stories work so well. So with M.H. Abrams Glossary of Literary Terms in hand, I set out to learn about these things. I began analyzing short stories; then turned my attentions to the novel. I would read a novel and if I liked it enough select one aspect of it to further study. For example, in one novel I compared and contrasted the opening sentences of each chapter. In another book I found and compared the contents of each place the author changed from present tense to past. In yet another novel I searched to find the dramatic turning points in the main character’s transformation. I went on to analyze how secondary or even one-dimensional characters entered and left novels. I was serious in my pursuit of this knowledge.

Then I turned to books I’d read in the past. I analyzed The Canterbury Tales by Geoffrey Chaucer, Tales of the City by Armistead Maupin, Ceremony by Leslie Marmon Silko, House Made of Dawn by M. Scott Momaday. Somewhere along the way realized I had mostly read novels to enjoy exotic and unusual experiences and to find out what happened. This proclivity was bolstered by my habit of reading murder mysteries in which the big tasks is to figure out ‘who dun it’ as if that were the whole point of reading stories. That seemed my dominant approach. Finally I turned to Ethan Mordden and reread and analyzed several of his Buddies cycle that opened with what seemed to me appropriately titled I’ve a Feeling We’re Not in Kansas Anymore. I liked novels that told the stories of many different people. My novel search for understanding was moving me far away from how I had read them before and, like Mordden’s title far away from all my home state represented. And then there was the really big question: why was I trying to write a novel and how could I do it without making a big fool of myself?

I recall a voice teacher who seemed friends with a woman character Natasha Rostova in Leo Tolstoy’s War and Peace while I couldn’t even recall or pronounce the name of any character from my reading of that monstrously long novel. I recall in December my daughter-in-law reading Charlotte Bronte’s Jane Eyre for the umpteenth time. She said “It’s like a new story,” and she just loves Jane Eyre, probably her favorite literary character. Now I read Bronte and enjoyed the characters but never developed such a relationship with any of them. I just don’t get into character friendships, at least not easily.

Still I really have like some characters. First, Natty Bumpo in James Fennimore Cooper’s Leatherstocking Tales although I don’t recall if I respected him; second, Johnny in The Light in the Forest by Conrad Richter although I may really have been more interested in his Shawnee Indian cousin; third, the first-person narrator in Ambidextrous: The Secret Lives of Children by Felice Picano although I didn’t really like him so much as I recognized in him a character who as a child was bisexual like I was; fourth, Bud in Ethan Mordden’s stories, again another first person narrator who as a writer seemed as much the author of the story as its protagonist; and finally, Will in City of Shy Hunters by Tom Spanbauer although very much like in the cases of Picano and Mordden I may have liked the author as much as the character. Still Will became my literary friend because he came from an uncertain past, made creative adaptations to his surroundings, felt enamored of Native Americans, accepted into his life persons whose values widely differed from his own, worked hard, and introduced me to more exotic worlds of gay America, meaning in many important ways, more realistic descriptions of gay life.

But since I ended my list with Will from the Spanbauer book, I’ll say a few things about him who certainly has become an important character in my life if not a favorite (and be warned I’m speaking as much or more about Spanbuaer as I am about his great character Will). Will trusts people. Will does not try to fool himself. Will reveals his faults as well as his ideals and dreams. Will eats with sinners. He survives in the city, thrives there, values important aspects of his life, idealizes some individuals and loves them when they are too real to be idealized. He ekes out a living, is taken advantage of, finds friendship, and in general, builds a meaningful life in a hard and rough city.

And I thrill when Will says:

“Only your body can know another body.

“Because you see it, you think you know it. Your eyes think they know. Seeing Fiona’s body for so long, I thought I knew her body.

“I’ll tell you something, so you’ll know: It’s not the truth. Only your body can know another body.

“My hand on her back, my hand in her hand, her toes up against my toes, Fiona’s body wasn’t sections of a body my eyes had pieced together. In my arms was one long uninterrupted muscle, a body breathing life, strong and real.” (In the City of Shy Hunters, p. 184) Will is really real; his friends are real. I am his friend.

© Denver, 22 June 2014



About the Author  


Phillip Hoyle lives in Denver and spends his time writing, painting, and socializing. In general he keeps busy with groups of writers and artists. Following thirty-two years in church work and fifteen in a therapeutic massage practice, he now focuses on creating beauty. He volunteers at The Center leading the SAGE program “Telling Your Story.”

He also blogs at artandmorebyphilhoyle.blogspot.com

Reputation by Pat Gourley

It has been some months at least since I have quoted Grateful
Dead lyrics in one of my written pieces here so I think it’s about time. A line
from one of their classic songs, Uncle
John’s Band
– a tune by the way covered by the Indigo Girls, states “all I really want to know is are you kind”.
If I address “reputation” from a personal perspective I would most want to be
known and remembered for being kind.
While watching a 60 Minutes piece last night that featured a
few of the Dallas nurses who cared for Mr. Duncan the first Ebola patient in
the U.S. I was actually moved to tears by their genuine empathy and kindness
toward this man who was dying a horrifying death while at the same time at
considerable risk of infection themselves. As a nurse myself I can attest to
the fact that while we are not necessarily immune to the sight of human
suffering we are not often easily shocked either. This disease apparently is an
exception to that rule. Large amounts of human secretions are often part of the
game with nursing in certain settings. Ebola though seems to take that to a
whole new level most often in the form of voluminous amounts of vomit and
diarrhea. In the end stages of the disease even small droplets of these
secretions are teaming with literally millions and millions of viral particles
and it only takes one to pass it on.
They interviewed four nurses and all four seemed to exude
genuine kindness but I was most impressed with an African American woman and a
portly man with a definite and beautiful fey-air about him. Though not the case
anymore gay men were at one time a preponderance of the male nursing population
and we are still quite well represented. I will remember these nurses not so
much for their bravery but their dignified and uncompromising acts of human
kindness, wiping his tears and holding his hand albeit through multiple layers
of protective gear among many such acts in his last days. I would like to have the
epithet “he was a kind queen” attached to my tombstone or rather an urn full of
my ashes before they get scattered in San Francisco bay.
I suppose there was a time in my distant past when I did not
want the rather large “queer’ part of my being to be sullying my reputation in
anyway. I do think though I was lucky and got over that one quickly. One sort
of throws caution to the wind in that regard when you enter certain health care
professions and nursing in particular as a male in the 1970’s. I was probably
at my most flamboyant professionally in the 1970’s and I am sure had the
“reputation” as being the flaming homo nurse. Only once though in 40 years of nursing,
when working ICU, did a patient openly verbalize that he didn’t want the
“queer” touching him. My co-workers were much more upset about this than I was
at the time and it’s probably safe to say that the amount of kindness directed
this man’s way may have been severely curtailed during his intensive care stay.
Efficient and appropriate medical care does not necessitate kindness but it
sure goes down a lot easier with that in the mix.
As I alluded to I was quite out of the closet during both
nursing school and on the job in the 1970’s. I think my ‘homosexual-reputation’
if you will was solidly cemented one night in the ICU at University Hospital when
I had just returned from recovering from a bout of hepatitis. Hepatitis was
being discussed by a group of us including some docs and folks were speculating
whether or not I may have gotten the hepatitis on the job, something not
uncommon for nurses in those days before the advent of “universal precautions”
and good hepatitis vaccines. As I recall without missing a beat I quite
flippantly said that it was much more likely I was infected at the Empire
Bathes with my legs in the air. That was the end of that discussion.
As Andy Warhol so famously said everyone gets at least 15
minutes of fame, which I suppose you could say, then becomes a significant part
of his or her reputation. For me personally though I certainly hope that is not
the case. In early 2000 a writer with Westword came to Denver Health wanting to
do a piece on the current state of the AIDS epidemic. I had always shunned the
press wanting to do AIDS pieces because they so seldom got it right and what
could be worse for one’s ‘reputation” than to be grossly misquoted. The
reporter, a fellow named Steve Jackson, was a frequent freelance contributor to
the paper often doing long feature pieces. He apparently became bored with the
usual AIDS talking heads, mostly docs, at Public Health and was steered in my
direction by someone in the building.  He
and I actually hit it off having some sort of Grateful Dead connection as I
seem to recall and I spent quite a few hours telling him my story.
A long story short I became the entire focus of the piece and
wound up on the cover of the next issue. My own fifteen minutes of fame if you
will. The piece was insufferably long as it appeared in print and I was still
the case after the editor, Patty Calhoun, had cut a full third of it before
publication. I have never posted it to my web site in part because I found it
to be embarrassing, not because it affected my reputation at all but it really
seemed to focus on my own personal drama in a very over the top fashion. If any
good came out of it though I hoped it might have persuaded some folks at risk
to finally get tested and get on meds. I was, as was graphically laid out in
the piece, probably twenty years into my own HIV infection and still walking,
talking, working full-time and posing for Westword cover stories.
One might think, and I suppose I did too, that such exposure
would have major repercussions but it actually had virtually none. For one
thing it was too long for most folks to get through and secondly I attribute
this lack of fallout to the strength of coming out. If all your secrets are
already out their in your personal and work circles and most folks are already
bored with the old queen’s story and simply adding a few thousand more Westword
readers to that mix doesn’t much effect one’s life or reputation and it did
not.
In fact the response at least that blew back to me was quite
muted. Oh a few mostly gay positive men came up to me in person and were very
supportive but most responses ranged from “oh is he still alive” to my personal
favorite “I thought they only put convicted felons on the cover of Westword”.
The lesson for me seems quite obvious. One’s reputation
hopefully is not in anyway significantly influenced by any particular 15
minutes of fame but rather by a lifetime of being kind or at least trying to be
to all you encounter. In that respect I am great believer in Karma and what
goes around eventually, despite frequent bumps in the road, comes around.
© October
2014 

About the Author 

I was born in La Porte Indiana in 1949, raised on a farm and schooled
by Holy Cross nuns. The bulk of my adult life, some 40 plus years, was spent in
Denver, Colorado as a nurse, gardener and gay/AIDS activist. I have currently returned to Denver after an
extended sabbatical in San Francisco, California.

Drifting, Not Adrift by Nicholas

Drifting calls to me. It is one of my
all-time favorite images. I picture easy summer days, though this can occur in
any season, of floating along with the tide or the current. No resistance
though there is movement. Drifting along on an inner tube in a stream. Drifting
snowflakes. Drifting into day dreams. Drifting conjures up images of movement,
movement in a fluid environment, like floating in water. It appeals to me
perhaps because floating is the only thing I actually can do in water.
          Drifting is
not like being adrift. Being adrift is to be aimless and not necessarily moving
at all. Being adrift is akin to being lost whereas drifting is a more
imaginative state of seeking.
Sometimes I think I have been
drifting through most of my life since unlike a lot of other people I never
adopted a certain, single career path that I pursued devotedly–or slavishly–but
have pursued a number of careers. And I never tied myself down with raising
children, seeing the little ones grow because I helped make them grow,
following a course until they went out on their own. I guess I attach a lot of
freedom to drifting. I’ve always had a lot of freedom in my life—freedom to
move on to another place, start or stop a job or a career, make or end
relationships—without being constrained by too many responsibilities.
          Of course, my
life hasn’t been completely unmoored, untethered, without anchor. Being with
Jamie for the last 27 years has certainly brought me out of my self-indulgent
freedom now that I plan life changes with him and not just on my own whims. And
that change has been good as well.
          Now, that in
some ways, my drifting days are over, drifting is even more a state of mind
with my imagination conjuring up memories of wandering. I used to spend days
wandering or drifting around the Northern California coast on Point Reyes or on
the slopes of Mt. Tamaulipas. I used to drift about the fascinations and splendors
of San Francisco. I once spent a summer drifting through the Sierra Nevada mountains.
How nice it was to just drift along, letting the stream carry me, sometimes
literally, to whatever lay around the next bend. Drifting is a form of
exploring.
          Not many
people these days or at my age seem to think of life as an act of exploring. But
that is sometimes the only way I seem to be able to see it. We are all, after
all, just drifting from somewhere to somewhere else or maybe nowhere at all.
          Later this
afternoon you might find me at home, drifting off to sleep

© July
2014

About the Author 

Nicholas grew up in
Cleveland, then grew up in San Francisco, and is now growing up in Denver. He
retired from work with non-profits in 2009 and now bicycles, gardens, cooks,
does yoga, writes stories, and loves to go out for coffee.


There is a Frog in My Beer by Gillian

Generally, I think I have a good
sense of humor, but it is definitely not of the practical joke variety! Hardly
surprising. If you go by Wikipedia’s definition, practical jokes are everything
I abhor:  ” A mischievous trick or
joke played on someone, typically causing the victim to experience
embarrassment, perplexity, confusion, or discomfort.”
And why would I want to do that??
Need I say that I have never taken
advantage of April Fool’s Day, though I always tried to stay aware of the date
as I proceeded cautiously through the day.
Researching this topic a little on
the Web, I was surprised to find that the terms “hoax” and
“practical joke” seem to be used interchangeably. I have always
tended to think of a practical joke being perpetrated on an individual, for the
amusement of those creating the situation, secretly watching from some
hide-y-hole close by: a sign pinned to someone’s back, or the back of an office
chair, or cars parked within an inch on either side of the victim’s car, so
there is no way he or she can get into it. I have observed this one in the days
before cellphones when of course the car owner was forced to go back into the
building to phone, or simply wait, at which time the jokesters hastily remove
their cars. Why is that funny? I simply do not get it.
And now I think more about it, I
guess a hoax really is very much the same thing. Fake artifacts or photographs,
false media announcements, causing people to be elated or fearful depending on
the content, and later let down or relieved when they realize it was untrue.
Sorry, this is as unamusing to me as that rubber spider in the bed, or fake
vomit in the car; which should, as I see it, cease to be funny about the time
one goes to kindergarden.
And I’m sorry to make it into a
Battle of the Sexes thing, but I really believe, based on personal experience
and documented examples, pranks and hoaxes are much more favored by males than
females. Maybe it’s some kind of power thing. Not so much over women but men
over other men. When I worked in manufacturing, back when we had such a thing
in the good old U.S.A., practical jokes were a permanent part of the culture.
Sometimes women were targeted, but
not often. I think the fact that most women simply tut-tutted and shook their
heads sadly as they washed their hands in trick soap which blackened the skin,
or discovered that the sandwich in their lunchbox suddenly contained plastic
cheese, rather disappointed the onlookers and so took them out of the game.
With the men it became a competitive one-upmanship. Ok you got me good, but
you wait. Mine’ll be better.
That kind of practical joking, not involving
the unwilling or unsuspecting, doesn’t bother me. All’s fair between consulting
adults – in this case using the term adult rather loosely.
In fact, bemused.  All this silliness, and I see it more as
unkindness, to say the least, is apparently nothing new. There are documented
examples from the Middle Ages on, and, I’m sure, many many unrecorded pranks
before and since. The latest version would, I suppose, be computer viruses,
which I doubt most of us find very amusing.
I do have, however, my own evince
of past pranks. The house my grandparents lived in had at one time in the 1800s
been a pub. Digging in the garden, my father unearthed an old earthenware
tankard, remarkably undamaged. Inside it, emerging up the side, is a big brown
frog. Apparently, the publican would pick the right stage of inebriation of one
of his customers, and serve his next pint of ale in this mug. The poor guy
probably thought he was suffering from DT’s when the frog started to surface
from his beer.
 
I have to wonder if it was the
wisest stunt to pull on an obviously good customer, but then, some people will
pay quite a price to get a good laugh at someone else’s expense.
     
At one time I managed the
graveyard shift of a plastics production shop. There were about 30 plastic
presses and 35 to 40 miscellaneous employees. More than half the workers were
temporary, “ninety-day wonders” as they were sometimes referred to by
permanent employees, disparagingly but not meaning any harm. This was in the
early ‘seventies and at that time this country had floods of refugees from
Vietnam looking four work. Many of our temporary vacancies were filled by these
quiet, hard-working people who never caused trouble and were, in fact, dream
employees. New to this country, speaking very little English, and heads filled
with who knows what horrific memories, they were, understandably, a bit jumpy.
I had always turned a blind eye to a few little pranks, as long as they was not
too disruptive. It’s hard to stay awake all night doing repetitive, boring,
tasks, and if a few practical jokes gave them a little added adrenaline then so
much the better. But then it spread to pranks pulled on the Vietnamese; nothing
serious or really mean, but these poor people were completely confused by it, a
little scared, and above all, I think, completely bemused. Why were these
things happening to them? Why was someone doing such things? I was forced to
put an immediate halt to  it all, and if,
occasionally I saw it happening again, I once again managed not to see it
unless it involved any of the poor bemused Vietnamese.

©
15 Aug 2014

About the Author 

I
was born and raised in England. After graduation from college there, I moved to
the U.S. and, having discovered Colorado, never left. I have lived in the
Denver-Boulder area since 1965, working for 30 years at IBM. I married, raised
four stepchildren, then got divorced after finally, in my forties, accepting
myself as a lesbian. I have now been with my wonderful partner Betsy for 25
years.

Our Path, by EyM

True leaders willingly follow.
Best leading tunes in, listens, cares, inspires,
and moves upward.

Maybe the loneliest person is the one
who could never learn to share,
so clamored instead to take control.

If well trained unworthiness kneels
at the feet of the selfish controller,
oppression results.

There on top of their own oppression,
ever pushing downward,
the controller has no chance to rise.

No one comes to them on the tennis court of
life,
to receive their perfect deadly serve.

There stands the domineering controller waiting,
ball in hand ,
completely in control,
and completely alone.

An upward path emerges from courageous sharing
and the ever liberating ability to trust.

A true and strong light shines from each person.
Standing side by side these lights
make bright the path for everyone
to travel onward and upward
together.

© October 2014 


About the Author 


A native of Colorado, she followed her Dad to the work bench
to develop a love of using tools, building things and solving problems. Her
Mother supported her talents in the arts. She sang her first solo at age 8.
Childhood memories include playing cowboy with a real horse in the great
outdoors. Professional involvements have included music, teaching, human
services, and being a helper and handy woman. Her writing reflects her sixties
identity and a noted fascination with nature, people and human causes. For
Eydie, life is deep and joyous, ever challenging and so much fun.

Practical Joke by Carlos

There are some things that a man who
has carried a weapon into battle never shares with others, keeping it confined
perhaps out of fear that to unlock it from his soul will unleash a tragic truth
about himself.
When I was a about ten, my uncle, a
veteran who had lost his innocence in World War II and later in the Korean War,
took me to see Pork Chop Hill, an
enactment of a battle fought during the Korean conflict. I hated the savagery,
the brutal, bestial violence. I emerged from the theater angry at my uncle for exposing
me to such a film, one that I later realized had a potential to leave
psychologically scars. It wasn’t until I learned to think like an adult that I
realized that my uncle, who never ever spoke of the carnage and butchery he, no
doubt, had experienced, had attempted to share with me his painful past, a
secret he could never  entrust to an
adult. In retrospect, I understood why over time he chose to drink himself to
death. As for my biological father, who also fought in the Pacific front during
the Second World War, he too never ever spoke of his experiences as a sailor
out at sea. When he returned from action on the frontline, he floundered
aimlessly, angrily. Years later, he married my pregnant mother a day shy of my
birth, no doubt in a guilt-ridden attempt to legitimize me, and maybe himself.
When my mother died, at her request, he summarily relinquished me to his
parents. I can only imagine what goes on in a woman’s mind when she cannot
trust her child to his father. Though I would meet with him on occasion when I
was growing up, I hated those awkward, silent moments, punctuated with heated rants.
He was so temperamental, so unrefined, that I subconsciously decided to slough
off any residual part of him, endeavoring to be everything he never was. Again,
it wasn’t until later that I learned compassion, recognizing that the ghosts of
his past haunted him every moment of his life. I haven’t heard of him in years.
When I last saw him, he was a frail, disappointed man; who knows, perhaps he
has finally found peace in death. Interestingly, I learned only a couple of
years ago, quite by accident that I was named Carlos after my uncle; as for my
middle name, Manuel, I also learned it is my father’s middle name. Thus, as a
symbol of new beginnings and hopes, I bore the names of two men who shared a
common core, a source I too would someday encounter. As for the parents who
raised me, being that they were undocumented Americans, they felt more
comfortable cocooned in the Spanish-speaking barrios of west Texas.
Nevertheless, believing in the American dream and realizing that their two sons
had had little choice of a future, all their dreams were placed upon me
becoming an educated man, a man who could pick from the sweetest fruit on the
tree. They never attempted to dissuade me from what in retrospect were obvious
gay inclinations, my poetic nature, my love of gardening and cooking, my
relative lack of male-centered interests. I was never cautioned to be anything
but myself, the antithesis of what my uncle and father had been, products of a
war-burdened society.  No doubt, they
must have been devastated when I was drafted during the conflagration of
another war. I considered only briefly the thought of dodging the draft by
declaring my homosexuality, that aberration that was still viewed with disgust
but which would have provided me with a different hand with which to play.
Instead, I answered the call to duty, mostly out of a misguided belief that to
fail to answer was inconceivable to the men in my family. Thus, once again, my
parents managed to bestow a blessing to another son whose destiny was thwarted
by a different war where young men were sacrificed for old, rich men’s egos. My
parents’ only solace was that God would be merciful and that their prayers to
the saint-of-the-month would be answered as they had been answered before.
However, the practical joke was on them since each son returned transformed by the
cesspools in which he had trudged. To this day, I am very selective of sharing the
details of the endless nights holding onto the earth out of fear that if I
didn’t, she would gather me in an intimate embrace. Suffice to say, that I proved
myself as an American, perhaps more so than some, regardless of whether I wash
my face or not.
During basic training at Fort Ord on
the Monterey Peninsula in California, I learned to meditate, to embrace my
surroundings even as I was transformed into a hesitant warrior. By encasing
myself into my poetic chrysalis, I sought to keep my keel intact, ensuring that
I would not lose myself as my uncle and father had a generation before. I
followed the rules of the game, practicing at playing soldier while nurturing a
yet indefinable core within me. We were frightened young men, a microcosm of an
America of the time seething with rage due to inequities of race and class.
Most of us suspected, though we never admitted, we were fodder cast into the fire
pit, expendable. Some, a few courageous souls I prefer to believe, chose to
swallow spit and reject the attempt to mold them into combatants. Of course,
I’ll never know whether they were self-actualized men who chose to act on their
convictions or defeated boys who weren’t up to the task. Regardless, they were
summarily dishonorably discharged. For days before their departure, however, they
were made to sit in front of the barracks facing the platoon in formation
before them as though they were on trial for crimes against humanity; it was
part of the psychological charade to which they, and we, were subjected. It was
an attempt to portray them as pathetic, emasculated boys unworthy of another’s
compassion. Nevertheless, I would look at them with respect, acknowledging that
every path has a puddle. When we were compelled to run with full gear, to the
point that I felt my chest heaving with pain, but didn’t want to be singled out
as the runt of the litter, I would look at the thick carpet of invading ice
plant thriving on the sand dunes and find solace in the tenacity of their being,
and I would keep running. When instructed on how to use the M-16, I would cast
glances across the bay and its icy waters and remind myself that someday I
would have to wade into the ocean to be restored. And when I was compelled to listen
to marching chants pregnant with vile racist words in an attempt to dehumanize
the VC, I prayed we’d all be forgiven.
Years later, upon completion of my
tour of duty, I returned back home to Texas. On the bus home, ironically I was
asked for my identity papers by an immigration inspector in New Mexico in spite
of my being in full dress military uniform. I guess, my face was still a little
dirty. Later, my fellow veterans and I were stigmatized by some of our
countrymen as rapists, My Lai baby killers, addicts, and pawns of the
establishment. Thus, I chose to silence my voice and deny my past. I managed not
only to survive but to thrive in spite of those moments and the moments that
followed. Because I was gay, a poet, a former soldier, I learned from fallen
warriors before me. Unlike my uncle, I’ve never been self-destructive; unlike
my father, although I have my moments of melancholy, I am essentially whole.
And unlike my parents, I don’t hold my hands in my lap and ask the saints to
intervene when a force larger than myself confronts me. I discovered it is
easier to control the amount of salt that goes into a dish than to try to scoop
it out when the dish is oversalted. I’ve learned that though there are some
things a man who has carried a weapon into battle never shares with another, he
must find the resolve which can only come from within himself to approach those
time bombs and diffuse them, thus turning the tables on the practical joke of
fate.

©
November, 2015, Denver 

About the Author 

Cervantes wrote, “I know who I am and who I may choose to be.”  In spite of my constant quest to live up to this proposition, I often falter.  I am a man who has been defined as sensitive, intuitive, and altruistic, but I have also been defined as being too shy, too retrospective, too pragmatic.  Something I know to be true. I am a survivor, a contradictory balance of a realist and a dreamer, and on occasions, quite charming.  Nevertheless, I often ask Spirit to keep His arms around my shoulder and His hand over my mouth.  My heroes range from Henry David Thoreau to Sheldon Cooper, and I always have time to watch Big Bang Theory or Under the Tuscan Sun.  I am a pragmatic romantic and a consummate lover of ideas and words, nature and time.  My beloved husband and our three rambunctious cocker spaniels are the souls that populate my heart. I could spend the rest of my life restoring our Victorian home, planting tomatoes, and lying under coconut palms on tropical sands.  I believe in Spirit, and have zero tolerance for irresponsibility, victim’s mentalities, political and religious orthodoxy, and intentional cruelty.  I am always on the look-out for friends, people who find that life just doesn’t get any better than breaking bread together and finding humor in the world around us.